All You Need Is Love

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      Cyber Dating? That phrase is very common now-a-days although it stuns me more than anything. It is easy for people to pretend they are something they are not online and there is a huge risk in moving relationships offline from the virtual world.  I believe that a relationship cannot be real strictly on an online base. One needs to make actual human contact and take a look at each other’s appearances in real life. I recently started watching a show called Catfish. On the internet, a “catfish” is basically a person who creates a fake personal profiles on many social media sites—pretending to be someone more outwardly appealing than his/her true self, and they do that by using someone else’s pictures and false biographical information. These “catfish” usually intend to trick an unsuspecting person or persons into falling in love with them. This show completely made my opinion about Online dating horrible. I felt that it was very dumb and it would not work and especially after seeing the incidents and the people on the show catfish, my eyes were more open as to who were the internet stalkers.

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      In the article byErich R. Merkle and Rhonda A. Richardson’s ”Digital Dating and Virtual Relating: Conceptualizing Computer Mediated Romantic Relationships,” they discuss the idea of CMR’s which are computer mediated relationships. They comment that it is very difficult for one to get a look at the online person’s real personality. All your thoughts are based off of knowing whats on the computer or what they actually portray to you. They also discuss the idea that your partner online might leave willingly if they want to. If they have the feel that they dont need a relationship they can just hit the delete button.

    In the movie Noah, the main character feels that his girlfriend is cheating on him so he goes through her facebook and finds out that she actually is and he decides to break up with her over Facebook. He has the problem of creating conflicts for himself which causes him to stand out behind his imitation. In my mind both the article and the movie were able to display my point perfectly that an online relationship is not a strong one and can be very severe to its victims.

 

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2 comments

  1. We both share the same outlook on internet relationships; they are incredibly risky and more often than not, are not worth the time and emotion. I too am a fan of the television show “Catfish,” which is why I believe that I look at internet relationships in such a manner. One cannot truly know another through a screen and if they believe that they can, they are often, as the show illustrates, proven wrong. I can’t imagine being emotionally and sexually involved with another person only to find out that they aren’t who they said they are. It would be damaging. Face-to-face relationships eliminate such deception, they are honest and in being so, are more fulfilling. One can know the other physically and emotionally, means to a healthy relationship.

  2. It makes me feel a little better knowing that other people also believe that internet dating is, more times than not, not the most reliable way to meet someone. As you did, I too discussed issues such as trust when it comes to online dating. I believe that a person’s nonverbal language( body stance,appearance etc.) can reveal a lot about who that person is, even when they may not intentionally try to emit such information. Unfortunately, the Internet depletes the ability to gauge another’s body language resulting in a lack of information that is often considered vital to a relationship. In addition to that, as you have mentioned, people can lie on the internet. The MTV show “Catfish” you mentioned is the perfect example of this.

    However, in the short film Noah, the girlfriend was not cheating. It was later revealed that the guy she was messaging was a homosexual and that her now ex-boyfriend had nothing to worry about. Either way, Noah had no right to hack into her Facebook account; a prime example as to why you cannot trust people and how they use the internet.

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